San Francisco Couples Therapy for Neurodiverse Relationships
When you love each other—but experience the relationship completely differently
In a city like San Francisco, many couples are navigating something that doesn’t always have a clear name at first:
One partner processes things more analytically, the other more emotionally
One needs space, the other needs closeness
Conversations turn into confusion, not resolution
You keep trying to “communicate better,” but nothing really shifts
Over time, it can start to feel like:
You’re speaking different languages
You’re constantly misinterpreting each other
You’re both trying—but missing each other
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And you’re not “bad at relationships.”
You may be in a neurodiverse or mixed-neurotype relationship—and that requires a different approach than standard couples therapy.
Why traditional couples therapy hasn’t worked
Many couples I work with come in after trying therapy before and feeling like:
“We just learned communication tools, but nothing changed”
“It felt like we were being treated the same, when we’re clearly not”
“I felt blamed / misunderstood”
That’s because most couples therapy is built on the assumption that both partners:
process emotions similarly
express needs in similar ways
experience connection in similar ways
When that’s not true, those approaches can actually increase frustration.
REMEMBER why YOU CHOSE EACH OTHER—AND CHOOSE EACH OTHER AGAIN.
Hi, I’m Adela.
I help couples get to the bottom of the patterns keeping them stuck: we cultivate a more enjoyable relationship for both partners.
You deserve more than just going through the motions.
Get to the root of the issue & discover a deeper connection.
Online couples therapy for partners who experience connection, communication, and intimacy differently.
In-person and remote options
Our office is conveniently located in Manhattan. A place to gather, grow, and reconnect.