ADELA STONE PSYCHOTHERAPY
I help neurodivergent/neurodiverse couples and neurotypical couples reconnect and create a mutual understanding.
I am an associate Marriage and Family Therapist in the business of helping couples. I am an ally for the following groups (not a comprehensive list):
Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy
Sex Postive, Kink Allied
“To love means to be actively concerned for the life and the growth of another.”
Your styles of conflict may be different: some partners fight a lot, some avoid conflict and yet others are able to talk things out without ever raising their voice. Your partnership may be tested by the discrepant ways you show or don't want to show affection and intimacy. You might have realized that you have mismatched values. Perhaps you just found out that your partner is neurodiverse leading you to wonder if your marriage can prevail in ways that don't lead to emotional abandonment and resentment.
Whatever the point of contention may be, I can help you heal those wounds and guide you forward in your relationship. I will aim at making you a more emotionally intelligent couple who is better able to understand, honor and respect each other and the relationship. The likelihood of getting divorced is so high that it makes sense for all married couples to invest into making their marriages stronger before contempt for one another sets in too deep.
Even a relationship built on good foundations can fail when the partners start taking each other for granted. Just know that better communication techniques alone will not save your partnership. They may alleviate some stress but will most likely not be enough to save your relationship. Understanding the core difference that is causing the conflict between you and learning how to live with it in respectful and honorable ways will.
MY FOCUS IN COUPLES THERAPY
Guidance and collaboration towards a fulfilling relationship
SEX AND INTIMACY CHALLENGES
There is no judgment in couples sex therapy.
With my guidance, you can learn to talk to each other about intimacy in a way that makes you both feel safe, including the way to express your needs, and the appropriate way to react to your partner's requests.
If you're worried about passion fading or your sexual preferences being misaligned, I can help support you on the journey towards a better, more enjoyable intimate life, and come out of this experience as a united, resilient couple.
Navigating the world of co-parenting can be tricky and awkward. Conflicting emotions may arise. Old wounds may reopen.
I can help you stop rehashing the past and move towards being able to focus on what actually matters most now: your child. My role here is to normalize your feelings and guide you to make important decisions that affect your child. The first two sessions are spent meeting the parents separately to understand their stories .
NEURODIVERSE COUPLES COUNSELING
I'm aware of the fact that neurology matters and I recognize that in the case of a neurodiverse couple, it is important to view a partnership through this lens as opposed to focusing only external conflicts.
The "Aspie" person will remain Aspie. But that doesn't mean that the relationship is doomed. Neurodivergent/neurodiverse marriages are not as uncommon as previously thought. You are not alone and you are not crazy.
I am part of the Neurodiverse Couples Counseling Center.
Serving the Bay Area and beyond via video sessions
I am part of the Couples Recovery Center which includes the following professionals:
Rosario Puga-Dempsey, MA, Registered Associate, MFTA #117320
Hamed Fatahian, MA, Registered Associate, MFTA #124635, APCC #9331,
Bassy Lee, MA, Registered Associate, MFTA #122672
Kate Meek, MA, Registered Associate, MFTA #117725, APCC #7649
Harry Motro, PsyD, LMFT #53452
Claudio Vargas Silva, MA, LMFT #82582