COUPLES THERAPY WITH ADELA
Do you want to have healthier communication? Finally be seen and heard by your partner? I help couples create mutual understanding and reconnect.
Need a boutique approach for you and your partner? I work exclusively with couples. Don't settle for a therapist who "also" sees couples on the side. You deserve a true couples-focused approach to your relationship struggles, especially if you are noticing resentment building up.
The couples I work with stop ineffective communication patterns, heal their emotional wounds and navigate mismatched values & desires. Couples move from being adversaries to finally being back on the same team again, as the strong unit they were meant to be. Feeling like teammates helps couples face any challenges and problems from a resilient position. My job is to help you achieve that "us versus them" feeling that will carry you both forward on your own after you don't need my sessions anymore. I want you to be able to learn, adapt and apply everything we talk about in sessions and keep running with it. I want you to learn how to "fish."
I'm a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in California providing couples therapy for CA residents. I offer couples coaching to clients not residing in CA.
WHY IS COUPLES THERAPY A GOOD IDEA?
Are your styles of conflict different? Some partners fight a lot while some try to avoid conflict completely. This can lead to you both feeling anxious and stuck without ever resolving anything.
Are you fighting over the ways you each show or don't want to show affection and intimacy? This can stem from our upbringing and the patterns we learned and saw when we were little.
Maybe you barely have sex anymore even though that used to be a big part of your relationship. You might be mourning the way things used to be and wondering what went wrong. Does my partner not want me anymore? Will this only keep getting worse?
Are you starting to worry that the two of you have mismatched values and are growing apart?
Or, did you just find out that your partner is neurodiverse, leaving you confused and wondering if your marriage can thrive in a way that doesn't end up in emotional abandonment and resentment?
Whatever the struggle may be, I can help you heal those emotional wounds. You will become a more emotionally intelligent couple who is better able to understand, honor and respect each other and the relationship. You will be able to help yourselves after you are done with therapy. You will have the insight, the compassion and the tools necessary to maintain the positive changes and keep the momentum going.
The likelihood of getting divorced is so high that it makes sense for all married couples to invest into making their marriages stronger before contempt for one another sets in too deep. Your marriage or your partnership are one of the most important relationships you will have in your life. Keeping it flourishing and satisfying thanks to therapy is one of those rare investments that don't depreciate in value. What you learn about yourself and your partner will never be taken away from you.
Even a relationship built on good foundations can fail when partners start taking each other for granted. Please know that better communication techniques alone will not save your partnership. They may alleviate some stress. But understanding the core difference that is causing the conflict between you, making necessary changes and then learning how to live with the remaining differences in a respectful and honorable manner is a more sustainable approach.
I offer video sessions ONLY.
Reach out via email or fill out the form so we can then schedule a free, no-obligations-whatsoever 20 min consultation on zoom where we meet and see what your main struggles are, what you would most like to change, and where I'll give you an overview of how I envision you and your partner getting to that new, healthier place that you both deserve.
MY FOCUS IN COUPLES THERAPY
Get back on track and build a stronger, more positive partnership.
SEX AND INTIMACY CHALLENGES
There is no judgment in couples sex therapy.
With my guidance, you can learn to talk to each other about intimacy in a way that makes you both feel safe, including the way to express your needs, and the appropriate way to react to your partner's requests.
If you're worried about passion fading or your sexual preferences being misaligned, I can help support you on the journey towards a better, more enjoyable intimate life, and come out of this experience as a united, resilient couple.
NEURODIVERSE COUPLES COUNSELING
I'm aware of the fact that neurology matters and I recognize that in the case of a neurodiverse couple, it is important to view a partnership through this lens as opposed to focusing only external conflicts.
The "Aspie" person will remain Aspie. But that doesn't mean that the relationship is doomed. Neurodivergent/neurodiverse marriages are not as uncommon as previously thought. You are not alone and you are not crazy.
Helping clients all over the U.S. via video sessions