COUNSELING FOR
Neurodivergent & Neurodiverse COUPLES ONLINE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Supporting you to be your most authentic selves in your relationship.

When your brains work differently, it can feel like you and your partner are living on different planets.

If you or your partner have ADHD, autism, or both, the way you show up in your relationship may not always be received the way you expect. The things that matter to you just don’t seem to land with your partner, and vice versa.

It seems like you're always letting each other down, even when you’re trying your best. And if you've read all the books, listened to all the podcasts, and even tried therapy before just to walk away feeling even more misunderstood, it makes sense that you'd start to wonder if something’s just fundamentally wrong.

MAYBE YOU & YOUR PARTNER…

  • Have completely different needs around connection and space, like one of you craves quality time and the other needs a lot of time alone to recharge.

  • Struggle to talk about emotions without things escalating or shutting down, especially when one of you tends to problem-solve and the other is seeking emotional presence.

  • Keep getting stuck in tension around chores and responsibilities, where one of you forgets or misses cues, and the other feels like they're parenting instead of partnering.

  • Feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells, because even small requests or feedback can lead to defensiveness or feeling hurt and rejected.

  • Experience conflict around sensory needs, like touch, noise, or food, that may seem small but leave one of you feeling overwhelmed and the other hurt or annoyed.

  • Feel pressure to “mask” at home just to keep the peace, but end up feeling even more disconnected because you can’t fully relax or be yourself.

You’ve already tried the “traditional” advice. Let’s find new approaches that work for who you are.

How it works

Helping you create a new, shared language to bridge the gap. 

Every couple brings their own rhythm, wiring, and ways of doing life together—and I’m not here to tell you that one of you is wrong or broken. I don’t pathologize differences, I get curious about them. Our work is collaborative and paced in a way that helps both of you stay grounded and open. 

I’ll help you make sense of your communication patterns, your stress responses, and the habits that might be getting in the way of connection—not through blame, but with compassion and honesty. Together, we look at what’s really going on under the surface, including how your upbringing, past experiences, and even your nervous systems are shaping how you show up in the relationship.

A big part of my approach is helping you understand your own and each other’s brain wiring. That might mean mapping out your sensory needs, communication styles, or emotional processing, and using that insight to build a relationship that actually works for both of you. 

I affirm both neurodivergent and neurotypical partners, and I’ll support you in letting go of “shoulds” that don’t apply to your reality. You’ll learn practical tools to express your needs clearly, regulate emotions, and stop taking things so personally—so you can stop spinning in conflict and start feeling like a team again.

How I can help

Specialized therapy for neurodiverse couples can help you…

  • Feel more like you’re in this together— Learn how to stop getting stuck in Defense Mode, shutdown, or autistic meltdown and start working together with more understanding, trust, and shared responsibility.

  • Stop walking on eggshells and actually talk things through — Get practical tools to manage overwhelm, learn how to take breaks in a way that is connecting instead of destructive, and create a shared language for when emotions run high.

  • Understand each other’s differences instead of being hurt by them — We’ll explore how your brains are wired and how to navigate communication, sensory needs, and energy levels without resentment.

  • Create structure and systems that actually work for your life — From chore distribution to daily rhythms, we’ll build routines that work with—not against—your unique needs, strengths, and bandwidth.

  • Drop the mask and feel safe around your partner — With rituals for connection, honest conversations, and space for each of you to feel accepted, you’ll no longer need to mask at home or worry about demand avoidance getting in the way of your relationship.

YOU DESERVE SUPPORT THAT GETS you.

FAQs

  • Neurodivergent is an umbrella term that can include things like ADHD, autism, sensory processing differences, and even learning differences. It basically just means your brain processes things a little differently than what’s considered “typical.” That might show up in how you think, communicate, or experience emotions. In our work together, we’ll explore how those differences show up in your relationship—and find ways to make things work for both of you.

  • No, you don’t need any kind of official diagnosis to work with me. If you suspect something might be going on—whether it’s ADHD, autism, or just a sense that your brain or your partner’s brain works a bit differently—that’s more than enough. We’ll use that curiosity to better understand your dynamic and tailor the work to what actually helps you feel more connected.

  • In neurodiverse relationships, it’s common to feel like you’re missing each other—even when you both care deeply. The usual advice around communication or emotional connection often doesn’t land the same way, and one or both of you might feel constantly misunderstood, overstimulated, or like you’re speaking different languages. That’s where my approach comes in—helping you both feel seen, heard, and on the same team again.