Relationship counseling
FOR COUPLES ONLINE ACROSS CALIFORNIA & FLORIDA
Break the cycle & build something stronger together.
You’re stuck in a loop of miscommunication, arguing, and shutting down—and it’s not only exhausting, it’s lonely.
It seems like you’ve tried everything to work through your issues as a couple, and yet here you still are: same fight, different day. It starts with walking on eggshells and trying not to set each other off, but no matter what you do, you both feel either “too much” or “not enough.”
Maybe you’re holding it together on the outside, just doing what you can to get through the week—but inside, you’re worn down and starting to lose hope. You worry about the example you’re setting for the kids, and even more so about how resigned you feel toward your partner. You love each other, but you're wondering if love is enough to keep you together when you’ve drifted so far apart.
You don’t have to choose between staying stuck or walking away. There’s another way forward.
How it works
Support that’s tailored to fit your relationship—and brings about real change.
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We will start with a free 20 minute Zoom consultation: a chance for us to see whether my approach to couples therapy feels like a good fit for what you’re looking for. The consultation is designed for discernment, not certainty.
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Ideally, we’ll start by meeting weekly to build momentum toward your goals, and reassess this cadence as our work progresses.
In the first few sessions, we start by mapping out your relationship—your story, your strengths, your struggles, your support systems, and what you’re both hoping for. I’ll also check in about things like trauma history and cultural or family influences—because all of that shapes how you relate to one another.
This isn’t about putting you in a box or diagnosing what's wrong. It’s about understanding your unique dynamic so we can work with it—not against it. And we go at a pace that matches your nervous systems, slowing down when things feel like too much, and going deeper when you’re ready.
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Once we have a solid foundation, we’ll start looking at the stuck patterns—those fights and misunderstandings you keep having, the places where you keep missing each other.
We’ll figure out what’s actually going on under the surface (it’s usually not really about dishes or calendars) and work with the unmet needs, triggers, or protective strategies that are showing up. This might mean examining your pasts to uncover what you learned about relationships growing up, defining what’s important to you as individuals, and finding where these things overlap between you.
The structure of these sessions can look a lot of different ways. Some couples prefer a flexible, open-ended conversation, while others do better with a clear plan. I often bring in visuals, metaphors, worksheets, or writing exercises if I feel they might help bridge the gap between you. You’re always welcome to tell me what is and isn’t working for you, and we can adjust accordingly.
This part is about learning new ways to connect—emotionally, physically, practically. And we do it in a way that honors both of your styles, not just one person’s comfort zone.
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As you start to feel more stable and connected as a couple, we’ll adapt the pace and rhythm of therapy to fit your life. Some folks continue to meet weekly, others may move to every other week.
Couples therapy is about the relationship you create together, so most sessions are held with both partners present. Meeting separately without intention can create imbalance or misunderstandings. If it ever feels helpful, we can plan brief individual sessions as part of the couples work and with both partners’ awareness.
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Once you’re feeling good about your progress and comfortable using the tools you’ve learned outside of session, you might be ready to see me once a month or fully “graduate”. Many couples like to schedule occasional check-ins to stay connected to what’s working, especially during big life changes or moments of stress.
How I can help
Couples therapy can help you & your partner…
Understand the “why” behind your patterns — When you get clear on what’s really fueling the tension, you can stop spinning in blame or shame and start responding with compassion instead.
Communicate in a way that actually works for you — Instead of one-size-fits-all advice, you’ll get tools that match your nervous systems and unique dynamic, so conversations don’t keep ending in shutdowns or fights.
Feel emotionally safer with each other — It starts to feel possible to speak your truth without fear that it’ll lead to conflict, rejection, or being misunderstood.
Reconnect in a way that feels real and lasting — You’ll move beyond just managing day-to-day life and get back to enjoying each other emotionally, mentally, and often physically too.
Be more fully yourself in the relationship — Stop people-pleasing to your own detriment and start showing up in a way that feels true—and as the kind of partner you want to be.
YOU’VE BUILT THIS LIFE together—I WANT TO HELP YOU ENJOY IT AGAIN.
FAQs
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My sessions with couples are 50 minutes long. I’ve found that longer sessions tend to be overwhelming for all parties and it can be difficult to focus after a while, especially when deep emotions are at play.
Couples therapy is different from individual therapy. We’re not just exploring ideas—we’re interrupting patterns that have been repeating for months, years or decades.
Most couples come in the middle of a conflict cycle: arguments escalate quickly, conversations shut down, or resentment has been quietly building. If we meet every other week, that cycle has time to reset between sessions. It’s like trying to learn a new language but only practicing once a month—you forget what you just learned.
Meeting weekly at the beginning helps us build momentum. It gives you a chance to try new ways of talking, repair small ruptures quickly, and create real change at home while the work is still fresh.
Once your relationship starts feeling steadier and safer, we can absolutely space sessions out, meet every other week and over time, maybe once a month to maintain progress and check in.
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I primarily use Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Attachment Theory, and the Gottman Method. Each one brings something different to the table—whether it's helping you understand your emotional cycles, challenging stuck patterns, or giving you tools that actually work. If you’re curious to learn more, you can visit my about page, but I’ll always tailor the approach to fit you.
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It really depends on your goals, what you’re both bringing in, and how much effort you’re putting in between sessions. Some couples start feeling shifts within a few months, while others want longer-term support to really untangle deeper stuff. My goal isn’t to keep you in therapy forever—it’s to help you build the kind of relationship where you don’t need me long-term.
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It can—if you’re both willing to show up and do the work. Therapy isn’t magic, but it can be a turning point if you’re ready to look honestly at what’s not working and try something different. I’ll bring insight, support, and a clear path forward—but it takes both of you showing up. If you're in, I’m in.