Relationship counseling
FOR COUPLES ONLINE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Break the cycle & build something stronger together.

You’re stuck in a loop of miscommunication, arguing, and shutting down—and it’s not only exhausting, it’s lonely.

It seems like you’ve tried everything to work through your issues as a couple, and yet here you still are: same fight, different day. It starts with walking on eggshells and trying not to set each other off, but no matter what you do, you both feel either “too much” or “not enough.” 

Maybe you’re holding it together on the outside, just doing what you can to get through the week—but inside, you’re worn down and starting to lose hope. You worry about the example  you’re setting for the kids, and even more so about how resigned you feel toward your partner. You love each other, but you're wondering if love is enough to keep you together when you’ve drifted so far apart.

You don’t have to choose between staying stuck or walking away. There’s another way forward.

How it works

Support that’s tailored to fit your relationship—and brings about real change.

  • We can start with a free 30-minute Zoom consultation to talk about what’s bringing you here, answer any questions, and see if we’re a good fit. 

    But I also totally understand if you’re feeling consulted-out—if you’ve talked to a bunch of therapists already and are over it. If my approach resonates with you and you’re ready to jump in, we can skip the consult and go straight to scheduling a first session. Either way, I want the starting point to feel doable for you, not one more exhausting thing on your list.

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  • Ideally, we’ll start by meeting weekly to build momentum toward your goals, and reassess this cadence as our work progresses. However, if biweekly is more realistic, I still believe it’s very much worth the effort.

    In the first few sessions, we start by mapping out your relationship—your story, your strengths, your struggles, your support systems, and what you’re both hoping for. I’ll also check in about things like trauma history and cultural or family influences—because all of that shapes how you relate to one another. 

    This isn’t about putting you in a box or diagnosing what's wrong. It’s about understanding your unique dynamic so we can work with it—not against it. And we go at a pace that matches your nervous systems, slowing down when things feel like too much, and going deeper when you’re ready.

  • Once we have a solid foundation, we’ll start looking at the stuck patterns—those fights and misunderstandings you keep having, the places where you keep missing each other. 

    We’ll figure out what’s actually going on under the surface (it’s usually not really about dishes or calendars) and work with the unmet needs, triggers, or protective strategies that are showing up. This might mean examining your pasts to uncover what you learned about relationships growing up, defining what’s important to you as individuals, and finding where these things overlap between you.

    The structure of these sessions can look a lot of different ways. Some couples prefer a flexible, open-ended conversation, while others do better with a clear plan. I often bring in visuals, metaphors, worksheets, or writing exercises if I feel they might help bridge the gap between you. You’re always welcome to tell me what is and isn’t working for you, and we can adjust accordingly.

    This part is about learning new ways to connect—emotionally, physically, practically. And we do it in a way that honors both of your styles, not just one person’s comfort zone.

  • As you start to feel more stable and connected as a couple, we’ll adapt the pace and rhythm of therapy to fit your life. Some folks continue to meet weekly, others may move to every other week due to busy lives or finances. Whatever you decide, we can continue making progress. Since our sessions are online, you can join from different locations, on your lunch break, or when and wherever best fits all of our schedules.

    Occasionally, I might meet with one partner individually (only with both of your consent) when it supports the relationship—especially when there’s trauma, anxiety, or a neurodivergent experience that needs its own space. In these cases, we’ll only meet one-on-one for one session, to avoid bias and ensure our focus stays on the wellbeing of the relationship. These sessions are always in service of the couple and we bring anything important back into the shared space, together, with care.

  • Once you’re feeling good about your progress and comfortable using the tools you’ve learned outside of session, you might be ready to “graduate”—but I’ll still be here to support you if anything comes up. Many couples like to schedule occasional check-ins to stay connected to what’s working, especially during big life changes or moments of stress. 

    These are low-pressure, flexible sessions that could occur monthly, quarterly, or sporadically, meant to help you keep that momentum going without needing to dive all the way back into therapy. Think of it as a tune-up, not a repair job.

How I can help

Couples therapy can help you & your partner…

  • Understand the “why” behind your patterns — When you get clear on what’s really fueling the tension, you can stop spinning in blame or shame and start responding with compassion instead.

  • Communicate in a way that actually works for you — Instead of one-size-fits-all advice, you’ll get tools that match your nervous systems and unique dynamic, so conversations don’t keep ending in shutdowns or fights.

  • Feel emotionally safer with each other — It starts to feel possible to speak your truth without fear that it’ll lead to conflict, rejection, or being misunderstood.

  • Reconnect in a way that feels real and lasting — You’ll move beyond just managing day-to-day life and get back to enjoying each other emotionally, mentally, and often physically too.

  • Be more fully yourself in the relationship — Stop people-pleasing to your own detriment and start showing up in a way that feels true—and as the kind of partner you want to be.

YOU’VE BUILT THIS LIFE together—I WANT TO HELP YOU ENJOY IT AGAIN.

FAQs

  • My sessions with couples are 50 minutes long. I’ve found that longer sessions tend to be overwhelming for all parties and it can be difficult to focus after a while, especially when deep emotions are at play.

    Ideally, we’ll start by meeting once a week, but we can do biweekly if that’s more realistic for you. Over time, we’ll assess your progress and if your relationship is feeling more stable and stronger, we can shift to meeting every other week. Eventually, you might graduate completely or move to ad hoc scheduled monthly check-ins.

  • I primarily use Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Attachment Theory, and the Gottman Method. Each one brings something different to the table—whether it's helping you understand your emotional cycles, challenging stuck patterns, or giving you tools that actually work. If you’re curious to learn more, you can visit my about page, but I’ll always tailor the approach to fit you.

  • It really depends on your goals, what you’re both bringing in, and how much effort you’re putting in between sessions. Some couples start feeling shifts within a few months, while others want longer-term support to really untangle deeper stuff. My goal isn’t to keep you in therapy forever—it’s to help you build the kind of relationship where you don’t need me long-term.

  • It can—if you’re both willing to show up and do the work. Therapy isn’t magic, but it can be a turning point if you’re ready to look honestly at what’s not working and try something different. I’ll bring insight, support, and a clear path forward—but it takes both of you showing up. If you're in, I’m in.