THERAPY FOR
Sex and Intimacy ONLINE ACROSS CALIFORNIA

Understand what’s getting in the way so intimacy can feel fun again.

You love each other, but these days you feel like passing ships in the night—tagging in and out of chores or kid duty, and never actually connecting.

Intimacy starts to feel like just another thing on the to-do list, and even when the opportunity’s there, the spark isn’t. Maybe you’ve stopped bringing it up altogether because it always leads to tension or fighting, or you’re afraid of being shut down and making things worse. When you don’t feel seen, or wanted, or safe to speak up, it’s no wonder you end up stuck in a passionless rut. And though you knew things couldn’t be new and exciting forever, you didn’t expect them to dry up completely.

Along with all of that, maybe you & your partner struggle due to…

  • One or both of you having low libido, because of hormones, stress, exhaustion, insecurity, or just generally feeling “meh.”

  • Past sexual trauma that’s left you physically disconnected from the experience of sex in order to prevent overwhelm or fear.

  • Inability to talk about sex or shame around expressing your needs, wishes, and fantasies to one another.

  • Cultural conditioning that’s shaped how you think about and approach intimacy.

  • Performance anxiety and worries about whether the experience will be “good” ruining your ability to stay present.

The truth is, intimacy isn’t just about chemistry—it’s about how each of you shows up, takes risks, and makes the other feel valued and understood.

Seeing your partner get real and vulnerable is a turn-on—that’s where intimacy starts.

How it works

Helping you find the spark again.

In our work together, we slow things down and make space for conversations that might’ve felt too loaded or overwhelming before. I’ll guide you through practical tools, help you explore where the pressure or anxiety is coming from, and support you in trying new things at your own pace—both in and out of session. At the core, this is about creating connection that actually feels good and real for both of you.

That could mean rediscovering each other’s desires through low-pressure intimacy exercises, finding new ways to flirt and play, or even just learning how to ask for what you want without fear.  Sometimes that starts with a simple worksheet, a shared laugh, or an honest conversation. I’ll help you move from confusion and disconnection into a deeper understanding of what turns you on emotionally and physically—and what it takes to bring that spark back to life in a way that fits your real, everyday life.

How I can help

Specialized therapy for sex & intimacy can help you…

  • Rebuild emotional and physical closeness — Learn how to reconnect in ways that feel safe, playful, and real—without pressure or walking on eggshells.

  • Talk about sex without embarrassment or shutdown — Start having open, honest conversations about intimacy that don’t spiral into conflict or awkwardness.

  • Understand what’s getting in the way of desire —Get curious (not critical) about the patterns or experiences that make it hard to feel connected or in the mood.

  • Navigate differences in desire without blame — Shift from feeling like something’s wrong with one of you to finding a rhythm that works for both of you.

  • Let go of shame and write a new story around intimacy — Heal from old messages, fears, or past hurt so they don’t keep running the show.

  • Build a shared language for intimacy and repair — Create ways to talk through misunderstandings and feel like teammates instead of opponents when things get tough.

LET’S BRING THE PASSION BACK IN A WAY THAT FEELS RIGHT FOR both OF YOU.

FAQs

  • I’m not a certified sex therapist, but I’ve done advanced training in Gottman, EFT, and RLT—all of which give me solid tools for helping couples navigate sex, intimacy, and connection. My approach looks at the emotional and relational layers underneath what’s going on in the bedroom, because that’s usually where the real shifts happen. If intimacy feels hard or loaded, we can unpack it together in a way that feels safe and judgment-free.

  • There’s no one-size-fits-all answer here—“normal” really depends on the couple. What matters most is whether both of you feel good about the level of intimacy you’re sharing, and whether it feels like a source of connection instead of stress or resentment. If it’s become a point of tension, avoidance, or hurt, that’s a good reason to talk about it. We can work together to figure out what’s right for your relationship, not someone else’s.

  • Intimacy is about more than just sex—it’s feeling close, known, and safe with your partner. It’s the glue that helps you get through hard moments together and feel like you’re on the same team. When intimacy is missing, even small problems can start to feel overwhelming. In therapy, we’ll get curious about what’s getting in the way and help you rebuild that sense of closeness, in whatever way makes sense for you.