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Attachment Injuries

 Have you stopped looking to your partner for comfort? Do you panic in a situation where you are dependent on your partner and have to trust them? Do you have intrusive memories of a painful event between the two of you?

Attachment injuries happen even in the more successful and happy relationships. There are times partners get stuck feeling hurt and resentful about a certain event that transpired in the relationship. Often, attachment injuries are the result of a specific incident (infidelity, one partner's unexpected reaction to a diagnosis, illness, a forgotten birthday or anniversary, etc.). Being in an intimate relationship with another human is bound to create some hurt.

An attachment injury occurs when what you did to your partner or how they behaved towards you was very far from what was expected. This gap between expectation and reality can be very heartbreaking. Your trust is likely eroded now, especially if the impact of the hurtful behavior has been minimized, dismissed or mocked. If this behavior becomes a pattern you get stuck in the chronic attachment injury territory and it can be really difficult to break from. 

I specialize in guiding couples through the process of healing those attachment injuries and rebuilding their connection.

How I Can Help:

1. Safe and Supportive Environment: I provide a safe and supportive space where both partners can openly express their feelings, fears, and concerns without judgment. I am committed to fostering an atmosphere of trust and understanding.

2. Exploring Root Causes: To heal attachment injuries, it's essential to understand their origins. I work collaboratively with you to explore past experiences and identify the root causes of attachment injuries, creating a foundation for targeted healing.

3. Communication Enhancement: Effective communication is key to healing attachment injuries. I guide couples in developing healthier communication patterns, ensuring that you both feel heard, validated, and understood.

4. Rebuilding Trust: Trust is a cornerstone of any thriving relationship. I employ evidence-based techniques to rebuild trust, helping partners feel secure and confident in the strength of their emotional connection.

5. Emotion-Focused Therapy: My therapeutic approach to attachment injuries is rooted in Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT), among others. By focusing on emotions and fostering empathy, I help couples create a more secure and emotionally attuned bond. Understanding your conflict cycle is key here as well: there is often a pattern that you fall prey to and get stuck in argument traps. 

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